User blog comment:Fliu/About Lola and Big Mom's Relationship/@comment-25270312-20161130013225

I think Big Mom is actually misleading everyone about how angry she is with Lola because

1) she doesn't want any of her kids running off from their marriages

and

2) she can't be seen as weak or overly loving - she maintains her yonko reputation and control by projecting some image of ruthlessness

I doubt Lola would have spoken so fondly of her mother or gottne the vivre card if she didn't leave on good terms. Big Mom believes that pirates should be free, so I think she would actually let any of her kids go if they were brave enough to stand up for it. Lola was probably just the only one who did it. It seems that Big Mom also DOES care that her kids are happy to an extent (she was really excited that Sanji is a chef; she found a fishman for Praline, and they seem to be genuinely in love, Chiffon and Bege seem to genuinely care for each other, etc.). I think Big Mom IS still pissed that she lost whatever the opportunity was, but that she ultimately put Lola's happiness first. This is speculation, but if Big Mom's ultimate dream is racial harmony and a happy family, I think there's more to her than a ruthless, evil, greedy terrible mother, and I think she's misleading everyone, including the readers.